Intimacy of Touch: Frequently Asked Questions

Of course, "sensual massage is a phrase that can mean different things to different people. However, at Intimacy of Touch, it is most definitely a proper massage. I tailor all massages to the specific requirements of my client, in terms of both the dynamic of the massage and the degree of sensuality involved. The request form I will send you after receiving your booking helps me prepare for your treatment and allows you to specify exactly what you are seeking from your massage. And, naturally, your request is not set in stone: you are welcome to adapt to how you are feeling both before and during your treatment.

In some ways, this is a trick question. All massage is sensual because it involves the sharing of touch between giver and receiver. In my eyes, the difference between a therapeutic massage and a sensual massage is that the main aim of a therapeutic massage is to bring some physical benefit to the receiver. wheras in a sensual massage the intention is to give pleasure. At Intimacy of Touch, a sensual massage combines techniques from many traditions, including Swedish massage, lomi lomi and tantra. The massage is given within your your boundaries, for the intentional arousal of the body, to orgasm if desired. My intention is to work within your comfort zone to help you embrace intimacy and arousal as part of the human experience.

It's entirely up to you. If it helps you relax, then yes. If you're travelling some distance to me, then you are welcome to shower here immediately before your treatment.

I will provide a storage basket that you can use to keep your personal possessions whilst having your massage.

I usually play music during the massage. I have a number of playlists that have proved popular with clients, ranging from tradional "spa music" to relaxing pop and rock. If you have some tracks you'd specifically like to hear, please let me know what they are, preferably in the form of an Apple Music or Spotify playlist, at least forty-eight hours ahead of your appointment. Alternatively, if your bring a Bluetooth enabled playback device with you, we should be able to hook it up to my audio system before we begin your massage.

Whatever you feel comfortable with, though you will need to remove at least some of your clothing. We will discuss the level of draping that will work best, given both your level of comfort and the type of massage you desire. Every style of massage I use will work better if you remove your bra. Some styles are possible if you would like to keep your knickers on. Because of the long flowing strokes covering the whole of your body, lomi lomi works best if you are nude, though minimal draping (a small flannel or hand towel over your buttocks or pubic area) is possible. Tantric massage also works best if you are nude because of the various sensations that you should experience over all parts of your body, though again various degrees of draping are possible. Regardless of what you are wearing, all my treatments usually start with you wearing a sarong, which I will provide. You wear the sarong whilst getting on to my treatment table and whilst we ground together at the start of the treatment. I will partially or fully remove the sarong, slowly drawinging over your skin (a very enjoyable sensation) to signal the start of the massage itself.

Usually, I use fractionated coconut oil as the base. This is less likely to stain clothing than grapeseed oil. It is thought to imrove skin hydration and reduce sensitivity. It may also reduce hunger, help with weight loss and have anti-bacterial and anti-oxidant properties, although evidence, as with all complementary therapies, is mainly anecdotal. As part of your pre-treatment questionnaire, I ask if you have a nut allergy. If you do, or think that you might, I would suggest using grapeseed oil. This has similar properties to fractionated coconut, though it is slightly more likely to stain towels and clothing. Both fractionated coconut and grapeseed oil can be used as a carrier for essential oils. Essential oils concentrated extracts from various plants and herbs. Each are thought to provide individual benefits including, for example, relaxation, invigoration, relief of tension or headaches, improved sleep patterns and increased libido. If you would like to use essential oils during your massage, please mention this in your pre-treatment questionnaire. If you are a repeat cleint, or have purchased one of my treatment packages, I will keep your oils in your own personal bottles, labelled for your use alone.

Yes, of course. You can bring a friend or a partner with you if that will help you feel more at ease, though often clients say that they feel more liberated when alone. Your companion may remain in the house, but not in the treatment room, during your treatment.

If you would like to share your treatment with your partner, then please book one of my couples treatments or training sessions.

This is a particularly important question and I would be very happy to discuss with you if there is any uncertainty.

The massage is all about you and your preferences and boundaries. The starting point is the request form that you will have completed but you may be unsure about some things and you can of course change your mind at any time.

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I pay careful attention to your responses and will adjust accordingly if I feel it's needed. Nontheless, if at any point you feel uncomfortable with anything that is happen, simply say soand I will stop or modify the treatment immediately.

As a nation we British can sometimes be reluctant to speak out if not happy but with an intimate treatment such as sensual massage it’s vitally important that we are able to communicate openly and honestly.

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You are not bound by what you have requested in your pre-treatment questionnaire. You can change your mind at any time. However, because the rapture of the moment can lead to later regret, I will not agree to include more intense activities than we have previously discussed.

Please rest assured there will be no drama and you will never offend in any way. if you want to include something that you think will shock me, don't worry. I don't judge and belive that one person's kink is another's normal. If you want to stop altogether, that is absolutely fine. Your enjoyment, comfort and wellbeing are my absolute priorities.

Sessions that include an element of kink can optionally explore domination and consensual non-consent. This can be can be very exciting to explore. When doing so, we will have agreed a simple traffic light system of safe words so you are always in ultimate control. If you are in any doubt that you will feel able to express your feelings for whatever reason then I would advise against booking this sort of treatment.

Not at all. It's probably best if you wear it up for most of your massage - to stop oill getting in your hair and to stop my hands snagging on it as I massage your neck and shoulders. If you enjoy having your hair stroked during your scalp massage, you can leave it down for that part of the treatment, and put it up afterwards.

I have a selection of hair grips you can use if you don't have one of your own with you.

Yes, if you wish. I will provide fresh towels and you are welcome to use my bathroom.

Intimacy of Touch is a cashless business. You may pay using a credit card, Paypal or any other virtual payment service.

Yes. I don't have access to your financial information at any time. I never see your card details, let alone keep them in my records.

All transactions are handled by a third party who take payment from your card, deduct their commission and pass the balance on to me.

No, not at all. My treatments are sensual, not sexual.

Besides, I have personal relationships that I am not going to endanger by stepping outside the boundaries we have agreed. And even if I did, one word of criticism from a single client would seriously endanger my business. I'm not going to risk my lifestyle for a brief fumble with a relative stranger.

In addition, I am a member of the IIOHT and their Code of Conduct explicitly prohibits personal relationships between therapists and clients.

This is a lovely, romantic, idea. Sadly, it's not one I can help you with because freely given and informed consent is absolutely vital in all that I do.

To allow sufficient time for reflection, the client's pre-treatment questionnaire must be completed at least a day ahead of any treatment. If you surprise your partner with a visit to me and ask her to complete the questionnaire on the day, I feel there is too much pressure and expectation of consent for it to be freely given.

By all means, buy one of my gift vouchers for her and present it to her ahead of time, but she must complete the questionnaire herself in advance of her treatment.

Please note that if you complete a questionnaire on someone else's behalf without my prior written agreement, then this is a breach of my terms and conditions and will result in cancellation of your booking without refund.

Unless you bring a partner or chaperone, no. I live alone in a quiet Cambridgeshire village. The entrance to my house is to the rear, and is not overlooked. You can arrive and leave without being seen.

I allow at least an hour between bookings, so there is little chance of meeting another client as you arrive or leave.

If, in the unlikely event that someone else will be in the house during your treatment, I will let you know beforehand. If you would prefer to rearrange your booking, or cancel it completely, you will be able to do so without penalty.

I live in a quiet Cambridgeshire village, five minutes from J15 on the A1(M), just south of Peterborough.

The nearest train stations are Peterborough, Huntingdon, Cambridge and Cambridge North. I am happy to collect you from a train or bus station before your treatment and return you afterwards, though I will ask for a cotribution to my mileage.

I prefer not to publicise my exact location on this website in order to protect the privacy of of my family. Once we have spoken, or once you have booked a treatment, I will provide my full address and a detailed description of how to find me.

No, I don't, though men are welcome to be part of a couples massage or training session.

The reasons I don't treat men are complex. The main one is that I am myself a heterosexual male. Whilst my treatments are sensual rather than sexual, I find that sexual compatibility adds a certain frisson to my approach to treatment that simply doesn't exist in other situations and allows me to be a more effective therapist.

I may occasionally be able to act as an agent for introductions to better suited therapists. However, clients are surely going to be better off by going to such therapists directly and thus avoiding having to pay my commission as well as the other therapist's fees.

I am a heterosexual cis male, approaching retirement. I've always had an interest in massage, but until creating Intimacy of Touch have never massaged anyone beyond family, friends and lovers. Always, despite their compliments, with the slight concern that I could be doing it better if I really knew what I was doing.

The COVID-19 lockdowns of 2020 and 2021 made me realise just how important touch was in my life, even though until then its importance had been subconscious. As lockdown lifted, I decided to qualify as a therapist - first in Swedish massage, later in lomi lomi and Tantra.

Physically, I am 179cm (5' 10") and weigh about 85 kg (just over 13 stone). I've always been involved with sport, sometimes to a high level, and though my days of personal bests are behind me, I still keep myself fit. I am happy to share photos once we have spoken or you have booked a treatment.

I am University educated. Though not medically qualified, I have worked for the NHS and in healthcare research since graduation. In the past, I have also worked as a professional sports photographer at the highest level.

Apart from massage, I enjoy dancing, cooking for friends and helping my daughter achieve her ambitions.

My usual treatment room is on the first floor. The staircase is wide and the steps aren't steep. To reach it, you'll need to climb thirteen steps up and three down. Alternatively, I can move my table to the conservatory. This is a particularly pleasant option in the summer.

All entrances to the house have small steps up from the outside. The height of the steps range between 13 and 20 cm (5 and 8 inches).